Thursday, February 15, 2007


I have read two posts in the past two days written by wives that were offended or upset at something that their husbands did or didn't do for Valentine's Day. Both of these ladies have been married for as long or longer than I have.

The only thing I could think of while reading them was something I learned very early in my marriage. You are NOT going to change your spouse. The ONLY person that can change your spouse (or anyone else for that matter) is GOD. MANY times I have prayed "God, please change him!" Only to have the prayer answered by Him changing ME. And you know I am the better for it.

I by no means have all the answers, I don't have very many. But that truth is one that has stuck out so much over the course of my marriage. Another is this Marriage is a pratnership of two working together -- It isn't a dictatorship written by only one person. For it to work both people have to work together.

Sorry I just had to get that off of my chest.


Becky said...

I agree with you 100%!!

Bethany said...

Nothing makes me angrier than to see a husband bashing going on on someone's blog! Well, maybe someone being critical of their spouse to me verbally!!

Twisted Cinderella said...

I agree with this. I was thrilled that Prince Charming bought me a rose for Valentines day and partly because after 5 1/2 years of marriage it is one of the first valentines days presents he has bought me. He is wonderful and romantic but he is not a holiday type guy.